Have you ever felt like you’re walking around with a name tag slapped on your chest that just screams, “I’m single”?
I certainly have. But that has never bothered me. I’m okay being single.
At least I was. Then last weekend while my sister and friends were getting tattoos, I came across this article. The article was all about the Worst Cities for Singles. If you haven’t guessed it, yes, the town I moved to last June scored a whopping 58! It may not be the worst score, but it isn’t the best either.
But it got me to thinking about the dating life. A scene I haven’t been on in about seven months. Not to mention how it’s impacted by social media. So, of course, I made a comment to my sister and friends about this.
Next thing you know we’re discussing the different dating sites/apps and speed dating. Experiences I’m not certain I’m ready to pay for again.
I honestly wanted to find Cupid and tell him to back off.
But they can’t all be bad, right? We even talked about the relationships we know worked.
For example, a friend of my sister’s met her husband on Plenty of Fish (PoF). I know, shocking right?
As far as I know, it’s a great site if you want to hook up. Kind of like Zoosk, except PoF (last I checked) is free.
Then there’s my aunt and uncle. They met online. Back when AOL was popular. Seventeen years and a kid later and they’re still making it work.
These are real examples, not like the ones I see advertised on E-Harmony or Match.com. Believe me, I tried Match.com and honestly I still want my money back. I swear I got hit up for more booty calls on that site than on PoF or Zoosk.
Despite all this, these sites are great for meeting people and helping you learn about the things going on in your city. I lived in a different city when I was on Match, but I was able to try Paint With A Twist for the first time. And I rather enjoyed it. Even enjoyed the company.
Thinking back on all of this and why it seems my new city may not be the best place to meet someone, I’m reminded that it doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
After all, no matter how one meets people or begins/ends a relationship, there is always something to take away from it.
The biggest lesson is learning to love yourself first, then learning to love someone else so you can both have the kind of love you deserve.
As my mother used to say, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.
Do you know someone who met online or through a dating site/app and made it work? If so, I’d love to hear about it.
Contributor/Author: Brigit Rosé